You really need to think about this as a journey – an open road. Life is a highway consisting of work, relationships, and responsibilities. Everyone around you is on the same highway. You took an exit when you allowed meth in your life, and granted, it seemed like a really fun and exciting detour. But life on the highway kept moving while you were on the access road parallel to the highway. Friend, if you’re reading this, seems like you know that it’s time to get back on the highway. That rough access road that you were one doesn’t just jump back on the freeway where you got off. No, in fact, it’s going to go on for a while longer through some pretty rough terrain until you look around and realize that you are in the flow of traffic again. I’m here to tell you that you aren’t alone in the car, and you aren’t the only person who’s taken that exit and travelled this road.
If you are using, I know that you can’t imagine life after meth but there can be. I know that when I was using it was impossible at all to see a stable future. After all, my life before, during, and honestly after meth had been turmoil even without the drug. After I got out of high school, married the pastor, and moved to Australia, my life seemed to go into continual change for the next 15 years. It would take me a minute to figure out how many times I moved, which included moving back from Australia and onto another marriage… and then the “drug-career” began. Just the four years I had meth in my life I moved seven times and had five jobs. Even after I finally quit, life was still turmoil, and that’s hard to deal with when you are newly sober. Can you relate?
It was because my life changed so much that left me insecure. Nothing seemed stable. Everywhere I moved I couldn’t feel like it was actually home because every time started feeling it was home, something major would change and I’d fine myself packing boxes again. And life would change in an instant. Can you relate?
Example, I remember one Thursday afternoon and my current husband (who was my boyfriend at the time) was getting ready to head to the bar for a pool tournament he was in. We were only clean from meth for maybe two months (though smoking pot like crazy). We were just about ready to leave when he received a phone call that he was fired from his bartending job – from the bar that we were about to go play pool at. Wow, he was crushed. We sat there and started reassessing our situation. What were we going to do? We couldn’t survive on my wages, he was sick of bartending, and we thought maybe this was a chance for a fresh start away from the temptation of still being close to those who were still using meth. His family lives in California (we were living in Nevada) and I suggested that we go live with them. In two weeks, I had quit another job, saying good bye to my family, was moving to another state. Life can change that quick – a new chapter to begin.
I know it seems impossible, but there is life after meth. So, not only dealing with the physical aspects of coming down and leaving the drug, it doesn’t mean that life will automatically fall into place. Remember, life is continuing to happen even while you are lost in the drug. It makes it hard to deal with, especially if you are moving which is physically and mentally draining, and the stress level goes up (especially if your living situation is less than ideal) hence making it a trigger. I know. It’s overwhelming. It can make you not want to face the changes that lay ahead. Leaving meth is a huge change and can be enough change.
I promise that there is life after meth though it will not be easy for a while. I don’t know of any addicts that can simply quit and normal life – job, living situation, relationships, finances, education, and healthy living – is just waiting for them like they never did the drug. Remember my highway example? The highway kept going when you were one the access road. Normal life is what usually takes the biggest hit while the addict is using so it’s that much harder to get back to “normal.”
You might be dealing with the courts if it’s gone that far. So then, let’s get it over with and deal with the courts. You can’t expect there not to be consequences for our actions because that is life. However, once dues are paid and you start taking over your responsibilities again, you will find yourself back on the highway.
I promise that there is life after meth, but it’s not going to happen overnight, but IT WILL HAPPEN. I sit here reaching out to you – my sober anniversary is coming up on New Year’s. I finally own the home I’m living in, the two boys I thought I would never have are in the oldest boys’ room playing, bills are all paid (except the one that’s due tomorrow) and my needs are met. It’s a beautiful, normal life after meth and it’s attainable. And it’s a lot easier to attain if you are going to do this process with God.
The promise I want to give to you today about striving for normal life after meth is found Galatians 6:9, “ And let us not grow weary while doing good, for in due season we shall reap if we do not lose heart.” This test is an important promise to keep because it can be real discouraging dealing with life after meth. However, DON’T GROW WEARY. In our case, losing heart can mean going back to using and that really not what we want.
I want to walk with you done this path where normal life lays ahead and meth is in the past. I invite you to contact me and let me know where you are in your walk.